5 things to get you started on your personal development journey
It can be quite overwhelming looking at all the self-help information out there on the Internet and in bookstores that we quite literally don't know where to start.
Here are five tips to help you get started.
Acknowledge where you are now and decide where it is want to be, who you want to be. It's like going into the forest without a map, with no idea of where you are starting or where you want to end up - If you don't have a map you will end up lost! Your map here is acknowledging honestly where you are in all areas of your life then deciding where you want to be, who you want to be, figuring out your WHY, then you can start your journey!
Commit to your journey. Realize this isn't an overnight or instant fix, realize that this is the start of a new life and new journey, an exciting new story, a new chapter, a new page, a new sentence in your life. Take this journey one day at a time, one step at a time.
Get curious, really really curious. More curious you can be the more information you can soak up. The more books you can read, the more pod casts you can listen to, the more websites you can browse in the personal development sphere, the quicker you will find those subjects and topics that really resonate with you. And I would say at the beginning of your journey of self-development find the things that do really resonate with you, that grab your interest, and read and listen to them, absorb them, and most importantly apply them to your life now. As I said there are millions of websites, books, pod casts and courses out there and it can be very overwhelming, so listen to your heart and mind and start tuning into the things that you do resonate with. These are often the things that will make biggest difference. If being a better parent, a better partner, a better person is what you seek, if it's finding more happiness, joy and satisfaction you desire, if it's rediscovering your passion for life, if it's facing your fears, if it's rediscovering life after a relationship has ended, whatever it is for you get curious and dive deep and love what you learn. Not everything you read or listen to or see will be right for you and that's okay, I've read some books and listened to some pod casts and done some courses that I found maybe only one or two ideas have really stuck with me that's okay. It is better to get one idea from something you've listen to or read than to get no ideas at all and, that one idea might be the thing that makes the biggest difference for you right now
You must apply what you learn. As I said, if you learn one thing from a book apply to your life now. If you learn lots of things pick the one that will make the biggest difference to you now. I would advise that if you have a specific goal in mind then focus your learning, you're reading and your listening in that area to get the best value for yourself, if not then browsing the self-help section in the bookstore and picking up the title that attracts you is fine and you will inevitably be attracted to the things that you need the most. Don't be a passive learner. If all you are going to do is read or listen and not apply, then you are simply wasting your time. Sometimes that can mean an idea you have learnt about can take a while to have an impact in your life. It sits there in your consciousness and sort of percolates away whilst your subconscious is is dealing with the new thoughts and the new ideas, and that's great to, because when you're ready for it, when your mind and body is ready for that idea it will be ready and waiting for you to take it on board. Often I've learnt things that I've known have been important and filed them away in the back of my mind to allow them to sit there and develop and let the idea grow, then when I'm ready for it it's like a light-bulb goes off in my head "yes I remember that now and I and I'm ready to apply that, I'm ready to take it on board and use it in my life".
Don't give up. It's easy when staring this journey to be pumped up and full of motivation and then as the weeks go by, interest, motivation and will power begin to fade away. That's normal! This is where commitment and a deep connection to your "Why" is absolutely vital (Click this link to see my previous blog on this topic). When the going gets tough and you feel you're not getting the breakthroughs you want, ask for help. Learning, growth and personal development is not something to be pursued in isolation. Find people to share your journey with, you are not alone, none of us are and as always there's a great Life Coach, Counselor, mentor, therapist only a click or a phone call away!
The joy of life consists in the exercise of one's energies, continual growth, constant change, the enjoyment of every new experience. To stop means simply to die. The eternal mistake of mankind is to set up an attainable ideal. Aleister Crowley